4 ways to stop the inner critic from taking over your life

4 ways to stop the inner critic from taking over your life

You have an inner critic.  It is a part of you.  It has good intentions. It wants to keep you safe.

 It only knows what you have experienced before in your life. It feels threatened by anything new.

The good news is that you can learn to quiet your critical inner voice.  Your ego needs some reassurance that you, as an adult can take care of yourself.

At first, it takes time to become aware of your inner critic. Often you are so used to this voice you think it is a normal part of yourself.  You don’t realize how destructive this voice has been in your life.

You need to be patient with yourself as you do the critical work to release yourself from your inner negativity.  You need to practice a lot of self-love. 

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Nine Reasons Why You Have A Harsh Inner Critic According to The Enneagram

Nine Reasons Why You Have A Harsh Inner Critic According to The Enneagram

You have an inner critic!  It will never go away. 

You have a choice to stay in the control of your ego or risk following your inner instincts.

Your inner critic wants to be your friend. Your ego likes the status quo. Your inner critic wants you to keep to the familiar so it can stay in charge.

The secret is to begin to befriend your inner critic.  Let it know how much you appreciate its desire to keep you safe.  Reassure it that you are now an adult and can take good care of yourself.  Over time your inner critic will quiet down.

The Enneagram is an excellent psychological-spiritual map that can show you how your inner critic tries to control you.  Each personality type has a different message and relationship with the inner critic.  

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Fifteen Inner Critic Quotes That You Should Never EVER Believe

Fifteen Inner Critic Quotes That You Should Never EVER Believe

You have an inner critic which is part of your ego!  Your ego is trying to keep you safe.  The worst thing you can do is fight it. It will only make things worse.

Are you aware of your inner critic?

It takes time and practice, to become aware of this negative voice within you. You are so used to hearing it; you think it is speaking the truth.

The more you can become aware of your inner critic the more choice you will have in how you respond to it.

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How to Do Your Own Inner Critic Coaching

How to Do Your Own Inner Critic Coaching

You have an inner critic. You will never get rid of it.  Instead of fighting it the best plan is to befriend it.

Your inner critic wants to keep you safe in the limitations of your ego.  As a child, you can thank your ego and inner critic for keeping you alive.

The trouble begins when you move into adulthood blind to how the inner critic is limiting your potential.

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 The Positive Intent of Your Inner Critic (How you can make it your friend)

 The Positive Intent of Your Inner Critic (How you can make it your friend)

When you were young your ego kept you safe. It helped you to become your own person differentiating yourself from others.  It prevented you from making choices that could hurt you.

Your ego helped you to deal with the messiness of life. It was like a parent for you especially if your parents were not present or helpful.   

The inner critic is that part of your ego which exists to keep you under its influence.  As I said above, the ego played an important role in helping you to survive your childhood. You would not have survived without it.

When you grow into adulthood the ego and the inner critic can get in your way if you are not aware of how it is impacting your life.

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How to Deal With A Toxic Inner Critic

How to Deal With A Toxic Inner Critic

The inner critic becomes toxic when you have no awareness of how this part of our ego is impacting us and the relationships you have with others.

When you have no awareness of your inner critic, that demeaning voice within you will come out in the way you treat family, friends and colleagues. People may experience you as impatient, angry, abusive, loud, intolerant and uncaring. The trouble is when you get to this place you will have no awareness that anything is wrong. 

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Your Inner Critic Is A Big Jerk - Until You Understand It

Your Inner Critic Is A Big Jerk - Until You Understand It

The Inner Critic wants to keep you safe. It is not your enemy. Unless you learn to notice how it is impacting your life, you will be limited to acting out your personality. The more you become aware of the inner critic the greater choices you will have because you know that you have a choice.. You are more than your personality!

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