An excellent place to start is to reflect on how much you trust yourself.
Think about it for a moment. On a trust scale of one to ten, where are you? One is no trust, and 10 is complete trust.
First, you must trust yourself to build and maintain healthy trust in your close relationships.
Learning the Enneagram can help you increase trust in your relationship.
Read MoreWhat does it mean to love yourself and be a better partner? Have you found a way to love yourself while ensuring you meet all your needs? Can you love yourself as much as you love your partner and kids?
How good are you at loving yourself? Do you get plenty of sleep, eat healthy food, exercise, pay attention to your emotions, enjoy time with friends and family and get help when needed? How you answer this question will reveal your strengths and growing edges around self-love.
If you are struggling to care for yourself, first, you must get over the belief drilled into you as a child that you need to always put the needs of others before your own. The pressure to put others first is especially true for women who are expected to sacrifice themselves for the needs of their families.
You get into relationship problems when you expect others to meet your needs. The reality is that you are responsible for your happiness. When you love yourself, you ensure that you are getting your needs met. You are no longer relying on another person to make you okay. Being grounded in your body, heart, and head help you be a better partner.
In any relationship, you need balance. Yes, there will be times that you will happily go out of your way to help another person when they are having a rough time. It only becomes a problem when you are always the one to give up your life for them.
In a healthy relationship, there will be a balance over time. You will both be there to support and encourage each other. No one will take advantage of the other.
Why the Enneagram? The Enneagram is a fantastic tool to help you to be your finest. It reveals the lies you tell yourself, your fears, and your unexpressed emotions. It points you towards the areas of your life that need healing. It shows you a path forward.
Once you name your Enneagram type, the adventure begins. Your type is where you go under stress; It is the automatic behaviours you do without intention or effort. It is your default when the rest of you is closed down.
Learning your type can take some months, even years. Some online tests can help you, but there is no perfect one.
Read MoreMost relationships begin well. When you are first in love, everything your beloved does is fantastic, cute and endearing. They can do no wrong.
As you move beyond the honeymoon phase, the blinder comes off, and you see your partner for they are.
Little habits of your partner start to annoy you. Maybe they never pick up their clothes off the floor. They never follow through on what they promise to do.
Is this person someone you are willing to give it your all. Is it worth your effort to see if you can make this relationship work?
Do the concerns seem minor compared to the benefits. Do you still want to see this man or woman every day? Do you feel like the most important person in the world when you are with them?
If you want to give your relationship a fair chance to grow, you need to invest time in the union. Make sure you have time every day to check in with each other. Create a safe space to share whatever is going on in your lives.
If you do run into problems, don't be afraid to ask for help, whether that be a religious leader, friend, family member or professional coach or counsellor.
If, after all this work, you are still having doubts about the relationships, here are six signs that it is time to end your relationship.
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Your best friend is there for you through thick and thin. Whether you regularly talk about how much you appreciate each other, or you have a more strong-and-silent sort of friendship, you know that your life is better because your best friend is in it. It's easy to take the people we love for granted, and letting then know how glad you are to have them in your life is a great way to celebrate the special bond that you have. Let's take a look at some fun ways to celebrate the joy of having a best friend in your life, and letting your partner in crime know how much they mean to you.
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Christmas can be stressful. The more stressed you become, the more miserable you get. The more miserable you are, the less patient you are.
Ironically, Christmas is supposed to bring out the best in you, and yet sometimes it does the opposite.
Christmas celebrates the goodness of humankind. It is a time to be generous, share your love, let go of resentments and give hope to the hopeless.
Do you put so many expectations on yourself? If you do, you are so busy; you have no time to quiet down and open yourself to the spirit?
To find joy again at Christmas, you first need to acknowledge how you feel about this time of year. If it brings you joy, you are on track. If it raises your blood pressure, it is time to make changes.
What are the essential qualities of Christmas for you? Here are some of the qualities that are important to me. Check these out and see if they fit for you?
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Relationships are complex. If you want a good relationship, you and your partner need to be committed to making it work.
Being committed means, you need to take responsibility for keeping your own emotional, physical and spiritual health. You need to be one hundred percent responsible for your happiness.
You need a partner who is willing to be responsible for his issues. He needs to be ready to keep himself healthy and stay committed to building a healthy and robust relationship with you.
There is nothing magical about getting married. Getting married will enhance healthy relationships and make destructive relationships even worse.
There is no such thing as getting married and happily living ever after without intention and effort.
When you both walk your talk; you are likely going to have a harmonies relationship. It takes time, patience, self-awareness and playfulness. You can make it happen.
Here are nine signs that you are in a good relationship:
Read MoreGod comes to you in many ways. God has many names Father, Allah, Mother, Oneness, Divine One and more.
God desires you and your partner to be your best as individuals and as a couple.
A good relationship with God will improve your marriage because the Spirit will help you to find your holy wisdom right within you.
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