When you hear the word, God, what comes to your mind will depend on the values you learned from your parents.
If you grew up in a faith community that taught that God was angry, judgmental, and violent, you would have a hard time believing in a loving God.
Here are some steps on how to build a relationship with God.
Read MoreYou are going to face conflict. Conflict happens whenever there are two or more people in a room. Conflict occurs when people have different opinions. Conflict is neither good nor bad.
If you are honest, you will acknowledge that you and your partner don't agree on everything. You see the world differently because of the influence of personality.
A healthy marriage requires both of you to know your selves. A great tool to help you do this is the Enneagram. In the Enneagram, there are nine different types, with each type having its strengths and weaknesses.
Learning your Enneagram type gives you a psychological-spiritual map to help you become conscious of the automatic behaviours you do unconsciously. Often these are behaviours that no longer serve you.
Once you become conscious of how you show up in the world, you can make different choices that will serve you better. As you learn to walk your talk, you will be better able to resolve conflict with your partner. You will also be more open to hearing what your partner has to say.
If you both do your work, it will be much easier to find win-win solutions to resolve your disagreements.
With the Enneagram as your starting point, here are three ways to overcome conflict and save your marriage.
Read MoreYou have an inner critic, and it is never going to go away. The good news is that it does not need to control your life.
You can thank your inner critic for keeping you safe, especially when you were growing up. You can thank your inner critic for its good intentions. However, it is time to let this part of you know that you are capable of taking care of yourself. It is time to quiet this voice and use your energy to build up rather than tear down.
Here are three ways to quiet the inner critic and find your true self:
Read MoreThe Enneagram and You
You are amazing, unique, and there is no one exactly like you!
You are given in the first few months of life, one of nine ways to survive in the world. Your personality type is critical for your survival. Your ego helps you to see yourself as separate and distinct from the people around you, even your parents.
Your ego gives you a framework to make sense of the world and keep you safe. The trouble begins when you come of age and don’t realize how much your fear of trying something new limits your freedom.
Each personality type is no better or worse than others. They are just different. Your type shows you where you are already stuck. Working with this fantastic tool helps you to break free of the limitations of your personality, helping you to become stronger in all nine types.
In this series of articles, I am going to take you on a journey through the nine Enneagram types. Remember, you have all nine types within you.
Read MoreLife is never easy. Right now, you and people around the world are facing Covid-19 together. Being stuck at home is amplifying your fears. You feel worries in your body, heart and the chaos of the mind.
You have nothing to distract you from your busy mind. You hunger for calm and inner peace.
You are grieving the loss of everyday things. You can now name what you have taken for granted. You are experiencing a disruption in your inner-world. Living in the time of pandemic is not an easy time. One moment you are sad, the next you are angry, and then happy. All this is exhausting.
Even amid Covid-19, there is a path to inner peace. Covid-19 is an excellent opportunity to find more about your true self. It is time to face your shadow side. Covid-19 is forcing all of us to slow down and face our pain, fears and insecurities.
Here are five mind-blowing tips to inner peace:
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Christmas can be stressful. The more stressed you become, the more miserable you get. The more miserable you are, the less patient you are.
Ironically, Christmas is supposed to bring out the best in you, and yet sometimes it does the opposite.
Christmas celebrates the goodness of humankind. It is a time to be generous, share your love, let go of resentments and give hope to the hopeless.
Do you put so many expectations on yourself? If you do, you are so busy; you have no time to quiet down and open yourself to the spirit?
To find joy again at Christmas, you first need to acknowledge how you feel about this time of year. If it brings you joy, you are on track. If it raises your blood pressure, it is time to make changes.
What are the essential qualities of Christmas for you? Here are some of the qualities that are important to me. Check these out and see if they fit for you?
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Christmas is a busy time of year full of activities. People judge you if you don’t seem happy.
You, among many, find it hard to slow down at this time of year. There is so much to prepare, people to entertain and perfect gifts to buy.
You feel pressure to make everything seem right for you and your family. You want to make sure that everyone who comes to your home has a perfect time.
If you are feeling overwhelmed, you are among many. But there is hope.
Christmas is really about the spirit of spreading, love, peace and justice around the world. It is about slowing down enough to listen to the spirit speaking in you.
This holiday season is about showing gratitude for all the people in your life and for the many blessings you enjoy.
Even for churchgoers, it can be tempting to miss church with all the pressures of Christmas.
For the many who have lost connection with Christianity, this time of year can feel empty. The good news is that it does not have to be so.
You are a spiritual being whether or not you go to church, mosque, temple, synagogue or any other place of worship. You have worth just for being you.
It is good to slow down to feel your connection to spirit. Here are five ways to connect with the spirit of Christmas without going to church.
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The Enneagram and You
You are amazing! You are unique! There is no one exactly like you! You are fully, you!
You are given in the first few months of life, one of nine ways to survive in the world. Your personality type is critical for your survival. Your ego helps you to see yourself as separate and distinct from the people around you, even your parents.
Your ego gives you a framework to make sense of the world and keep you safe. The trouble begins when we come of age and don’t realize how stuck you are in your type. You don’t understand how your personality is limiting your choices and threatening your freedom in the world.
Each personality type is no better or worse than others. They are just different. Your type shows you where you are already stuck. Working with this fantastic tool helps you to escape the limitations of your personality, getting you stronger in all nine types.
In this series of articles, I am going to take you on a journey through the nine Enneagram types. Remember, you have all nine types within you.
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