The Top 3 Reasons Using the Enneagram For Couples  Builds Stronger Relationships

The Top 3 Reasons Using the Enneagram For Couples   Builds Stronger Relationships

You want the best relationship possible with the person you love. You want to be heard, respected, and loved unconditionally.  Being heard, respected and loved is all possible if you are both committed to making it happen.

Using the Enneagram for couples builds stronger relationships. First, it helps you to be more self-aware. It helps you to accept and love yourself.  It helps you to take 100% responsibility for your own behaviour. 

Taking responsibility for your own behaviour invites you to focus on what you are capable of changing. This being yourself!

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The 3 Most Important Things A Good Relationship Consists Of

The 3 Most Important Things A Good Relationship Consists Of

Are you hungry for love?  Many of us will look for a person to complete us. The reality is that no one but our self can do this.  Why? Because you are one hundred percent responsible for your own happiness.

You are two whole people going into your relationship.  You're there for each other to create a nurturing environment – nudging you both towards health and wholeness.

What do you desire in a relationship? You likely want intimacy, trust, safety, playfulness, encouragement, love and compassion.   But are you both ready to take one hundred percent responsibility to make it happen?

Relationships should not be hard, but you will go through rough times. Are you both prepared to learn through the ups and downs of your relationship?  If you both can say yes to this, you are ready to begin the adventure.

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The Thirteen Most Important Things A Good Relationship Consists Of

The Thirteen Most Important Things A Good Relationship Consists Of

Falling in love is easy. Unfortunately falling in love has a way of blinding us to reality. When you are desperate to be loved, you will be tempted to accept any person who comes along.

First, you need to watch out for signs for poor emotional, mental and physical health in your partner..  

A good relationship consists of many qualities. But for you to recognize these qualities you need to be open and healthy yourself.

A good relationship consists of:

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How Enneagram Types Impact What You Observe in Your Self (And Others)

How Enneagram Types Impact What You Observe in Your Self (And Others)

Do people you love drive you crazy because they don't see your concerns?  Maybe your husband sees a messy house when it is not a big deal for you. Perhaps you are trying to help by washing the dishes, and your mother keeps complaining about how you do it.

You see and experience the world in your way.  Each of us sees different things depending on our personalities and our levels of awareness. It can help you to learn how enneagram types impact what you observe

Your Enneagram type will give you insight into what you are more likely to notice and what you are less likely to see.

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Fifteen Inner Critic Quotes That You Should Never EVER Believe

Fifteen Inner Critic Quotes That You Should Never EVER Believe

You have an inner critic which is part of your ego!  Your ego is trying to keep you safe.  The worst thing you can do is fight it. It will only make things worse.

Are you aware of your inner critic?

It takes time and practice, to become aware of this negative voice within you. You are so used to hearing it; you think it is speaking the truth.

The more you can become aware of your inner critic the more choice you will have in how you respond to it.

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How to Manage the Most Common Challenges of Life Transitions

How to Manage the Most Common Challenges of Life Transitions

Right from birth, you are going to experience transitions in life. It starts at the beginning of life at birth.

Can you imagine the shock you must have felt being birthed into the cold world from the cozy, safe home of your mother?

After birth, you go from one transition to another. They include: Your first steps. The first time you rode a bicycle. The first time your parents left you with a babysitter.

Then there is the first day of school. Puberty, when your body starts to go through many physical changes. First serious relationship. Leaving home. Going to university. Marriage, becoming a parent, being fired, moving to a different community, empty nest, retirement and death are all part of life’s journey.

Your goal is to manage the challenges of life transitions as best you can.

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How to Do Your Own Inner Critic Coaching

How to Do Your Own Inner Critic Coaching

You have an inner critic. You will never get rid of it.  Instead of fighting it the best plan is to befriend it.

Your inner critic wants to keep you safe in the limitations of your ego.  As a child, you can thank your ego and inner critic for keeping you alive.

The trouble begins when you move into adulthood blind to how the inner critic is limiting your potential.

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Twenty-One Tips for Adjusting to Life Transitions - Even Those Transitions You Don't Like

Twenty-One Tips for Adjusting to Life Transitions - Even Those Transitions You Don't Like

Life is full of transitions. The first big transition is birth.  Can you imagine suddenly being pushed into the world from the comfort of your mother’s womb?  I can only imagine how traumatic this is.

All transitions whether they are welcomed or not, take energy.

You are going to walk through transitions more easily if you can stay open to the wisdom from your three body centers (body-sensations, heart-emotions and heads-thoughts).

You are going to stay more relaxed if you can stay present. When you are present, you are fully open to the inner and outer wisdom that is available to you now.

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 The Positive Intent of Your Inner Critic (How you can make it your friend)

 The Positive Intent of Your Inner Critic (How you can make it your friend)

When you were young your ego kept you safe. It helped you to become your own person differentiating yourself from others.  It prevented you from making choices that could hurt you.

Your ego helped you to deal with the messiness of life. It was like a parent for you especially if your parents were not present or helpful.   

The inner critic is that part of your ego which exists to keep you under its influence.  As I said above, the ego played an important role in helping you to survive your childhood. You would not have survived without it.

When you grow into adulthood the ego and the inner critic can get in your way if you are not aware of how it is impacting your life.

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How to Deal With A Toxic Inner Critic

How to Deal With A Toxic Inner Critic

The inner critic becomes toxic when you have no awareness of how this part of our ego is impacting us and the relationships you have with others.

When you have no awareness of your inner critic, that demeaning voice within you will come out in the way you treat family, friends and colleagues. People may experience you as impatient, angry, abusive, loud, intolerant and uncaring. The trouble is when you get to this place you will have no awareness that anything is wrong. 

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Can Parenting Styles Change Depending On The Situation?

Can Parenting Styles Change Depending On The Situation?

No child is birthed into the world with instructions. No child is the same even when they come from the same parents. With continuing self care, self awareness and personal development you will be able to know what is best for your children. You will know when you need help. The good news is that our children are resilient. The best gifts you can give your children is your own well being and time to get to know them.

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Which Enneagram Type is Most Common and Why

Which Enneagram Type is Most Common and Why

It is hard to know what are the most common Enneagram Types. It depends alot on where the surveys were done. It seems that Type Six is one of the most common. In the end you have all nine types in you. Some of the personalities are easier to see than others. In the end you need all nine of them to be healthy.

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Which Enneagram Types Get Along Easiest (And Which Just Don't)

Which Enneagram Types Get Along Easiest (And Which Just Don't)

No matter what Enneagram type you are, you have the potential to get along with any other type. It all depends on how healthy you and your new friend or partner is. In this article you will be given clues, based on the nine types, to help you discern who are the people you desire to have in your life. Even more importantly it will help you to know when you are ready for a new friendship or relationship.

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How To Bring Mind, Body And Spirit Together  

How To Bring Mind, Body And Spirit Together   

You have more information available to you than you realize. Information that will help you to live the best life you can. Read more about how you can access this internal information through becoming conscious of your body wisdom, quite mind and wise spirit.

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How Enneagram Types Interact When Under Stress

How Enneagram Types Interact When Under Stress

The Enneagram is a powerful tool for personal development. Each of the Nine types responds to stress in different ways. Learning about how you respond to stress can help you to find new freedom through learning how to better handle stress.

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