Now That Your Divorce Is Over, What Are You Looking For In A Relationship?

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Now That Your Divorce Is Over, What Are You Looking For In A Relationship?

Your divorce is over, and you are wondering if you are ready to begin a new relationship. It is never wise to jump into a new relationship quickly. If you are honest with yourself, you will know when you are ready.

This in-between time is an excellent opportunity to reflect on this question: what are you looking for in a relationship? Take the time to learn from past relationships to clarify what you need and what would be nice.

Here are eight questions to ask yourself to help you name what you need in a relationship:

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Seven Reasons To Stop Believing You're Never Good Enough (So You Can Get Back To Your Life)

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Seven Reasons To Stop Believing You're Never Good Enough (So You Can Get Back To Your Life)

You are among many who believe they are never good enough. You probably do not broadcast this to the world, but your inner critic is always trying to put you down.

Your inner critic wants to keep you safe, and the only way it knows to keep you comfortable is keeping you from trying anything new. It hopes that telling you that you are never good enough will stop you from any new adventures.

The good news is that you can quiet your inner critic with practice by showing that you can take care of yourself.

Here are 11 ways to stop believing you are never good enough:

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What Is an Enneagram Wing & Why Should I Care About Mine?

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What Is an Enneagram Wing & Why Should I Care About Mine?

The enneagram is a psychological-spiritual tool that can help you be your best self by helping you to connect with your inner wisdom.

There are nine different personality types, and you have all nine points within you. Your type represents the box you get stuck in when you are experiencing stress.

The enneagram can get you out of your box by getting you in touch with your three centers of intelligence. It helps to peel off all the lies you tell yourself.

Your enneagram type can help you to observe yourself in action. It will show you what to look out for, allowing you to know whether you are moving towards stress or integration. The more you work on this, the more presence you will experience.

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When Divorce Becomes A Reality: How To Let Go Of A Dream & Move On With Your Life

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When Divorce Becomes A Reality: How To Let Go Of A Dream & Move On With Your Life

How do I let go of a dream that was my relationship with my ex?

Going through a divorce is one of the most challenging things you will do in your life, even when done respectfully.

You are now divorced, and suddenly reality hits. You come home from work, and there is no one to share the highs and lows of the day. You have to do things that your partner used to do and learn again how to do it. You want to go out for dinner, but who do you ask. Most of your recent friends are people you hung out with as couples.

You will need to make time to grieve. You have many questions and concerns that working through will help you begin letting go.

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8 Ways to Lovingly Experience Your Newly Empty Nest Without Losing Yourself in The Grief

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8 Ways to Lovingly Experience Your Newly Empty Nest Without Losing Yourself in The Grief

You love your children. They grow up so fast, and you cannot imagine life without them. Then what seems like too soon, they are ready to move away from home for university, college, or a new job.

You are seeing them off at the airport. You go home with tears of love and sadness. You are already missing them. It is hard to come home to an empty nest.

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How to Build a Relationship with God that Feels Loving & Not Critical

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How to Build a Relationship with God that Feels Loving & Not Critical

When you hear the word, God, what comes to your mind will depend on the values you learned from your parents.

If you grew up in a faith community that taught that God was angry, judgmental, and violent, you would have a hard time believing in a loving God.

Here are some steps on how to build a relationship with God.

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Why Am I So Lonely? I Wanted My Relationship to End & Now I am Miserable

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Why Am I So Lonely? I Wanted My Relationship to End & Now I am Miserable

You were in a long-term relationship, and It did not have a happy ending. You could not wait to end the relationship. Now you are out of the relationship, and you ask yourself, why am I so lonely.

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When To Quit Your Job So You Don't Lose Your Sanity (And Your Self Respect)

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When To Quit Your Job So You Don't Lose Your Sanity (And Your Self Respect)

You need a job! We all need jobs to survive. Sometimes we must work in jobs that are not our first choice. You may find satisfaction through volunteer work or hobbies.

If you are in a position where you face abuse, feel unappreciated, feel taken advantage of or are poorly paid, it may be time for you to leave.

Do not forget that you have great worth! You deserve to be treated well. Do not allow anyone or an organization to destroy your life.

Only you can know when to quit your job. Your body, your heart and your head will let you know when the time has come. Your only responsibility is to listen and act on what you know to be true.

The good news is that you have great wisdom within you. Your challenge is to learn to access your inner wisdom through connecting with your three centers of intelligence. Your three centers of intelligence are:

· Body (Sensations)

· Heart (Emotions)

· Head (Mind)

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How Your Fear Of Change Is Keeping You From The Life, You're Meant To Live

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How Your Fear Of Change Is Keeping You From The Life, You're Meant To Live

Change is a constant. It will never stop. If you want to follow your dreams, you will need to overcome your fear of change.

Often it is the voice of the inner critic that gets you in trouble. The inner critic is that part of your ego that wants to keep you safe by keeping to what it knows.

Your inner critic was necessary for your survival when you were an infant and child. However, it becomes a problem when you reach adulthood if you are not aware of how this negative voice impacts you.

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How To Read The Enneagram Diagram Like A Pro

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How To Read The Enneagram Diagram Like A Pro

The Enneagram diagram reveals the powerful teachings of the Enneagram. It provides you with a path to physical, emotional, mental and spiritual health.

Exploring this powerful image shows you a path to your best self. It helps you become self-aware, and with practice, you can catch yourself before you move into unhealthy behaviour.

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