4 ways to stop the inner critic from taking over your life

4 ways to stop the inner critic from taking over your life

You have an inner critic.  It is a part of you.  It has good intentions. It wants to keep you safe.

 It only knows what you have experienced before in your life. It feels threatened by anything new.

The good news is that you can learn to quiet your critical inner voice.  Your ego needs some reassurance that you, as an adult can take care of yourself.

At first, it takes time to become aware of your inner critic. Often you are so used to this voice you think it is a normal part of yourself.  You don’t realize how destructive this voice has been in your life.

You need to be patient with yourself as you do the critical work to release yourself from your inner negativity.  You need to practice a lot of self-love. 

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How to Cope with Life Transitions Even When They're Unexpected

How to Cope with Life Transitions Even When They're Unexpected

Change is the one constant in life. The more you can go with the flow the more natural change will be.  The more you try to stop change the more stressful it becomes.

Life is full of constant change. There are the changes we expect, such as moving from one level of education to another, our first date, marriage, first child, and retirement. Even these are not easy.

Whether or not the change is expected, the challenge is how to cope with life transitions

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The Enneagram is Bogus & other misconceptions about the Enneagram

The Enneagram is Bogus & other misconceptions about the Enneagram

While the Enneagram has ancient origins, it is new for many people.

 In the last couple of years, the Enneagram has moved into popular culture. You hear about it on all platforms of social media. There are more and more books written on the subject and workshops offered around the world.

With its increasing popularity there is a growing number of critics and doubters. In the context of increasing information coming out about the Enneagram, I want to counter the notion, that the Enneagram is Bogus.

 

Here are eight misconceptions about the Enneagram.

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Nine Reasons Why You Have A Harsh Inner Critic According to The Enneagram

Nine Reasons Why You Have A Harsh Inner Critic According to The Enneagram

You have an inner critic!  It will never go away. 

You have a choice to stay in the control of your ego or risk following your inner instincts.

Your inner critic wants to be your friend. Your ego likes the status quo. Your inner critic wants you to keep to the familiar so it can stay in charge.

The secret is to begin to befriend your inner critic.  Let it know how much you appreciate its desire to keep you safe.  Reassure it that you are now an adult and can take good care of yourself.  Over time your inner critic will quiet down.

The Enneagram is an excellent psychological-spiritual map that can show you how your inner critic tries to control you.  Each personality type has a different message and relationship with the inner critic.  

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The 3 Most Important Things A Good Relationship Consists Of

The 3 Most Important Things A Good Relationship Consists Of

Are you hungry for love?  Many of us will look for a person to complete us. The reality is that no one but our self can do this.  Why? Because you are one hundred percent responsible for your own happiness.

You are two whole people going into your relationship.  You're there for each other to create a nurturing environment – nudging you both towards health and wholeness.

What do you desire in a relationship? You likely want intimacy, trust, safety, playfulness, encouragement, love and compassion.   But are you both ready to take one hundred percent responsibility to make it happen?

Relationships should not be hard, but you will go through rough times. Are you both prepared to learn through the ups and downs of your relationship?  If you both can say yes to this, you are ready to begin the adventure.

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The Thirteen Most Important Things A Good Relationship Consists Of

The Thirteen Most Important Things A Good Relationship Consists Of

Falling in love is easy. Unfortunately falling in love has a way of blinding us to reality. When you are desperate to be loved, you will be tempted to accept any person who comes along.

First, you need to watch out for signs for poor emotional, mental and physical health in your partner..  

A good relationship consists of many qualities. But for you to recognize these qualities you need to be open and healthy yourself.

A good relationship consists of:

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Fifteen Inner Critic Quotes That You Should Never EVER Believe

Fifteen Inner Critic Quotes That You Should Never EVER Believe

You have an inner critic which is part of your ego!  Your ego is trying to keep you safe.  The worst thing you can do is fight it. It will only make things worse.

Are you aware of your inner critic?

It takes time and practice, to become aware of this negative voice within you. You are so used to hearing it; you think it is speaking the truth.

The more you can become aware of your inner critic the more choice you will have in how you respond to it.

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How to Manage the Most Common Challenges of Life Transitions

How to Manage the Most Common Challenges of Life Transitions

Right from birth, you are going to experience transitions in life. It starts at the beginning of life at birth.

Can you imagine the shock you must have felt being birthed into the cold world from the cozy, safe home of your mother?

After birth, you go from one transition to another. They include: Your first steps. The first time you rode a bicycle. The first time your parents left you with a babysitter.

Then there is the first day of school. Puberty, when your body starts to go through many physical changes. First serious relationship. Leaving home. Going to university. Marriage, becoming a parent, being fired, moving to a different community, empty nest, retirement and death are all part of life’s journey.

Your goal is to manage the challenges of life transitions as best you can.

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Fifteen Reasons Why A Good Relationship with God Will Improve Your Marriage

Fifteen Reasons Why A Good Relationship with God Will Improve Your Marriage

God comes to you in many ways. God has many names Father, Allah, Mother, Oneness, Divine One and more.

God desires you and your partner to be your best as individuals and as a couple.

A good relationship with God will improve your marriage because the Spirit will help you to find your holy wisdom right within you. 

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How to Do Your Own Inner Critic Coaching

How to Do Your Own Inner Critic Coaching

You have an inner critic. You will never get rid of it.  Instead of fighting it the best plan is to befriend it.

Your inner critic wants to keep you safe in the limitations of your ego.  As a child, you can thank your ego and inner critic for keeping you alive.

The trouble begins when you move into adulthood blind to how the inner critic is limiting your potential.

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Twenty-One Tips for Adjusting to Life Transitions - Even Those Transitions You Don't Like

Twenty-One Tips for Adjusting to Life Transitions - Even Those Transitions You Don't Like

Life is full of transitions. The first big transition is birth.  Can you imagine suddenly being pushed into the world from the comfort of your mother’s womb?  I can only imagine how traumatic this is.

All transitions whether they are welcomed or not, take energy.

You are going to walk through transitions more easily if you can stay open to the wisdom from your three body centers (body-sensations, heart-emotions and heads-thoughts).

You are going to stay more relaxed if you can stay present. When you are present, you are fully open to the inner and outer wisdom that is available to you now.

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How to Connect to God in Your Every Day Life

How to Connect to God in Your Every Day Life

Who is God for you?  God is more than any one of us can imagine.

It is God who gives you life. It is the Spirit that connects you to all people and life on planet earth.  It is Holy Oneness that gives you direction in life.

Connecting to God in everyday life is possible. It is possible because God resides right within us and around us.

You have been given a glimpse of God in people, nature, and the universe. This glimpse of the holy has made you hungry for more.

An excellent place to renew your relationship with God begins with yourself. The Spirit will reach out to you through your mind, body and heart.  Here are some tools and practices to help you to remain open to divine energy

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How Parenting Styles Can Affect Child Development

How Parenting Styles Can Affect Child Development

Raising children is one of the most challenging responsibilities you can take on.  There are hundreds of books out there to help you parent. But in the end, you need to figure out what is best for you and your children.

How we parent can impact the lives of your children?  You need to raise your children with love, patience and appropriate boundaries. You are not perfect, and you will make mistakes.  If you stay healthy and do your best,your children are more likely to mature into responsible adults.

Learn five way to strengthen your parenting skills.

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Nine Positive Parenting Styles for Single Parents

Nine Positive Parenting Styles for Single Parents

Parenting is one of the most important and challenging jobs in the world. Being a single parent is even more challenging. No child comes with instructions. Every child is different. You are still going to need friends and family to support you.

You have already learned some of the styles that work for you and your children. Each of the styles I am going to mention are general. You are going to need to find what works for you.

Here are nine positive parenting styles to help you be the best parent you can be.

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 The Positive Intent of Your Inner Critic (How you can make it your friend)

 The Positive Intent of Your Inner Critic (How you can make it your friend)

When you were young your ego kept you safe. It helped you to become your own person differentiating yourself from others.  It prevented you from making choices that could hurt you.

Your ego helped you to deal with the messiness of life. It was like a parent for you especially if your parents were not present or helpful.   

The inner critic is that part of your ego which exists to keep you under its influence.  As I said above, the ego played an important role in helping you to survive your childhood. You would not have survived without it.

When you grow into adulthood the ego and the inner critic can get in your way if you are not aware of how it is impacting your life.

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