4 Signs you are ready to move on after your divorce

4 Signs you are ready to move on after your divorce

No divorce is easy!  Even in the best circumstances, when you can both agree to the terms of the divorce it is still stressful.

Right after your divorce, you will need all the support you can receive.  Friends and family might be enough. But if you are having a hard time moving ahead you would benefit from psychological help.  There is no shame in getting help because this demonstrates your courage. 

No matter how you feel, take your time to work through the pain of ending your relationship.  It is time to focus on your own needs. 

Here are four signs you are ready to move on after your divorce:

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4 Ways to connect with God without going to Church

4 Ways to connect with God without going to   Church

You don’t have time to go to church, or you just haven’t found the right faith community?  The good news is that there are many ways to stay connected to God without going to church.

The reality is that God is all around you.  God is in the plants, trees, animals, people, insects, water, air and more.

God communicates with you when you quiet your mind, open your heart and feel the Spirit’s presence in your body.

It may seem at times that God has abandoned you, but, God has never left your side.

 

Here are four ways to connect with God without going to church:

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4 ways to stop the inner critic from taking over your life

4 ways to stop the inner critic from taking over your life

You have an inner critic.  It is a part of you.  It has good intentions. It wants to keep you safe.

 It only knows what you have experienced before in your life. It feels threatened by anything new.

The good news is that you can learn to quiet your critical inner voice.  Your ego needs some reassurance that you, as an adult can take care of yourself.

At first, it takes time to become aware of your inner critic. Often you are so used to this voice you think it is a normal part of yourself.  You don’t realize how destructive this voice has been in your life.

You need to be patient with yourself as you do the critical work to release yourself from your inner negativity.  You need to practice a lot of self-love. 

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How to Cope with Life Transitions Even When They're Unexpected

How to Cope with Life Transitions Even When They're Unexpected

Change is the one constant in life. The more you can go with the flow the more natural change will be.  The more you try to stop change the more stressful it becomes.

Life is full of constant change. There are the changes we expect, such as moving from one level of education to another, our first date, marriage, first child, and retirement. Even these are not easy.

Whether or not the change is expected, the challenge is how to cope with life transitions

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The Enneagram is Bogus & other misconceptions about the Enneagram

The Enneagram is Bogus & other misconceptions about the Enneagram

While the Enneagram has ancient origins, it is new for many people.

 In the last couple of years, the Enneagram has moved into popular culture. You hear about it on all platforms of social media. There are more and more books written on the subject and workshops offered around the world.

With its increasing popularity there is a growing number of critics and doubters. In the context of increasing information coming out about the Enneagram, I want to counter the notion, that the Enneagram is Bogus.

 

Here are eight misconceptions about the Enneagram.

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The Top 3 Reasons Using the Enneagram For Couples  Builds Stronger Relationships

The Top 3 Reasons Using the Enneagram For Couples   Builds Stronger Relationships

You want the best relationship possible with the person you love. You want to be heard, respected, and loved unconditionally.  Being heard, respected and loved is all possible if you are both committed to making it happen.

Using the Enneagram for couples builds stronger relationships. First, it helps you to be more self-aware. It helps you to accept and love yourself.  It helps you to take 100% responsibility for your own behaviour. 

Taking responsibility for your own behaviour invites you to focus on what you are capable of changing. This being yourself!

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