4 Signs you are ready to move on after your divorce

4 Signs you are ready to move on after your divorce

No divorce is easy!  Even in the best circumstances, when you can both agree to the terms of the divorce it is still stressful.

Right after your divorce, you will need all the support you can receive.  Friends and family might be enough. But if you are having a hard time moving ahead you would benefit from psychological help.  There is no shame in getting help because this demonstrates your courage. 

No matter how you feel, take your time to work through the pain of ending your relationship.  It is time to focus on your own needs. 

Here are four signs you are ready to move on after your divorce:

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11 Signs that you are in a good Relationship

11 Signs that you are in a good Relationship

Relationships are complex. If you want a good relationship, you and your partner need to be committed to making it work.

Being committed means, you need to take responsibility for keeping your own emotional, physical and spiritual health. You need to be one hundred percent responsible for your happiness.

You need a partner who is willing to be responsible for his issues.  He needs to be ready to keep himself healthy and stay committed to building a healthy and robust relationship with you.

There is nothing magical about getting married.  Getting married will enhance healthy relationships and make destructive relationships even worse.

There is no such thing as getting married and happily living ever after without intention and effort.

When you both walk your talk; you are likely going to have a harmonies relationship.  It takes time, patience, self-awareness and playfulness. You can make it happen. 

Here are nine signs that you are in a good relationship:

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How to Cope with Life Transitions Even When They're Unexpected

How to Cope with Life Transitions Even When They're Unexpected

Change is the one constant in life. The more you can go with the flow the more natural change will be.  The more you try to stop change the more stressful it becomes.

Life is full of constant change. There are the changes we expect, such as moving from one level of education to another, our first date, marriage, first child, and retirement. Even these are not easy.

Whether or not the change is expected, the challenge is how to cope with life transitions

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Nine Reasons Why You Have A Harsh Inner Critic According to The Enneagram

Nine Reasons Why You Have A Harsh Inner Critic According to The Enneagram

You have an inner critic!  It will never go away. 

You have a choice to stay in the control of your ego or risk following your inner instincts.

Your inner critic wants to be your friend. Your ego likes the status quo. Your inner critic wants you to keep to the familiar so it can stay in charge.

The secret is to begin to befriend your inner critic.  Let it know how much you appreciate its desire to keep you safe.  Reassure it that you are now an adult and can take good care of yourself.  Over time your inner critic will quiet down.

The Enneagram is an excellent psychological-spiritual map that can show you how your inner critic tries to control you.  Each personality type has a different message and relationship with the inner critic.  

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The Top 3 Reasons Using the Enneagram For Couples  Builds Stronger Relationships

The Top 3 Reasons Using the Enneagram For Couples   Builds Stronger Relationships

You want the best relationship possible with the person you love. You want to be heard, respected, and loved unconditionally.  Being heard, respected and loved is all possible if you are both committed to making it happen.

Using the Enneagram for couples builds stronger relationships. First, it helps you to be more self-aware. It helps you to accept and love yourself.  It helps you to take 100% responsibility for your own behaviour. 

Taking responsibility for your own behaviour invites you to focus on what you are capable of changing. This being yourself!

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The 3 Most Important Things A Good Relationship Consists Of

The 3 Most Important Things A Good Relationship Consists Of

Are you hungry for love?  Many of us will look for a person to complete us. The reality is that no one but our self can do this.  Why? Because you are one hundred percent responsible for your own happiness.

You are two whole people going into your relationship.  You're there for each other to create a nurturing environment – nudging you both towards health and wholeness.

What do you desire in a relationship? You likely want intimacy, trust, safety, playfulness, encouragement, love and compassion.   But are you both ready to take one hundred percent responsibility to make it happen?

Relationships should not be hard, but you will go through rough times. Are you both prepared to learn through the ups and downs of your relationship?  If you both can say yes to this, you are ready to begin the adventure.

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