The Thirteen Most Important Things A Good Relationship Consists Of

The Thirteen Most Important Things A Good Relationship Consists Of

Falling in love is easy. Unfortunately falling in love has a way of blinding us to reality. When you are desperate to be loved, you will be tempted to accept any person who comes along.

First, you need to watch out for signs for poor emotional, mental and physical health in your partner..  

A good relationship consists of many qualities. But for you to recognize these qualities you need to be open and healthy yourself.

A good relationship consists of:

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How Enneagram Types Impact What You Observe in Your Self (And Others)

How Enneagram Types Impact What You Observe in Your Self (And Others)

Do people you love drive you crazy because they don't see your concerns?  Maybe your husband sees a messy house when it is not a big deal for you. Perhaps you are trying to help by washing the dishes, and your mother keeps complaining about how you do it.

You see and experience the world in your way.  Each of us sees different things depending on our personalities and our levels of awareness. It can help you to learn how enneagram types impact what you observe

Your Enneagram type will give you insight into what you are more likely to notice and what you are less likely to see.

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Fifteen Inner Critic Quotes That You Should Never EVER Believe

Fifteen Inner Critic Quotes That You Should Never EVER Believe

You have an inner critic which is part of your ego!  Your ego is trying to keep you safe.  The worst thing you can do is fight it. It will only make things worse.

Are you aware of your inner critic?

It takes time and practice, to become aware of this negative voice within you. You are so used to hearing it; you think it is speaking the truth.

The more you can become aware of your inner critic the more choice you will have in how you respond to it.

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Manage the Most Common Challenges of Life Transitions

Manage the Most Common Challenges of Life Transitions

Right from birth, you are going to experience transitions in life. It starts at the beginning of life at birth.

Can you imagine the shock you must have felt being birthed into the cold world from the cozy, safe home of your mother?

After birth, you go from one transition to another. They include: Your first steps. The first time you rode a bicycle. The first time your parents left you with a babysitter.

Then there is the first day of school. Puberty, when your body starts to go through many physical changes. First serious relationship. Leaving home. Going to university. Marriage, becoming a parent, being fired, moving to a different community, empty nest, retirement and death are all part of life’s journey.

Your goal is to manage the challenges of life transitions as best you can.

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How to Do Your Own Inner Critic Coaching

How to Do Your Own Inner Critic Coaching

You have an inner critic. You will never get rid of it.  Instead of fighting it the best plan is to befriend it.

Your inner critic wants to keep you safe in the limitations of your ego.  As a child, you can thank your ego and inner critic for keeping you alive.

The trouble begins when you move into adulthood blind to how the inner critic is limiting your potential.

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Twenty-One Tips for Adjusting to Life Transitions - Even Those Transitions You Don't Like

Twenty-One Tips for Adjusting to Life Transitions - Even Those Transitions You Don't Like

Life is full of transitions. The first big transition is birth.  Can you imagine suddenly being pushed into the world from the comfort of your mother’s womb?  I can only imagine how traumatic this is.

All transitions whether they are welcomed or not, take energy.

You are going to walk through transitions more easily if you can stay open to the wisdom from your three body centers (body-sensations, heart-emotions and heads-thoughts).

You are going to stay more relaxed if you can stay present. When you are present, you are fully open to the inner and outer wisdom that is available to you now.

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What Makes A Good Relationship According to Your Enneagram Type

What Makes A Good Relationship According to Your Enneagram Type

The Enneagram is a psychological-spiritual tool that can help you to become more balanced in your three energy centers, head (thoughts), heart (emotions) and body (sensations). It is a map for personal growth.

This map will help you to notice when you are getting healthier or staying stuck in the limitations of your ego. The Enneagram not only reveals your level of health, but it also gives you clues to help you become more balanced.

What makes a good relationship according to your Enneagram type?  It depends on the emotional, mental and physical health of you and your partner. It requires you both to be as healthy as you can be in your Enneagram type.

There is no such thing as perfect Enneagram matches. You can build healthy relationships between any Enneagram types. Being aware of the strengths, and growing edges of both your types will give you tools to help you get along better with each other.

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Nine Positive Parenting Styles for Single Parents

Nine Positive Parenting Styles for Single Parents

Parenting is one of the most important and challenging jobs in the world. Being a single parent is even more challenging. No child comes with instructions. Every child is different. You are still going to need friends and family to support you.

You have already learned some of the styles that work for you and your children. Each of the styles I am going to mention are general. You are going to need to find what works for you.

Here are nine positive parenting styles to help you be the best parent you can be.

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 The Positive Intent of Your Inner Critic (How you can make it your friend)

 The Positive Intent of Your Inner Critic (How you can make it your friend)

When you were young your ego kept you safe. It helped you to become your own person differentiating yourself from others.  It prevented you from making choices that could hurt you.

Your ego helped you to deal with the messiness of life. It was like a parent for you especially if your parents were not present or helpful.   

The inner critic is that part of your ego which exists to keep you under its influence.  As I said above, the ego played an important role in helping you to survive your childhood. You would not have survived without it.

When you grow into adulthood the ego and the inner critic can get in your way if you are not aware of how it is impacting your life.

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Can Parenting Styles Change Depending On The Situation?

Can Parenting Styles Change Depending On The Situation?

No child is birthed into the world with instructions. No child is the same even when they come from the same parents. With continuing self care, self awareness and personal development you will be able to know what is best for your children. You will know when you need help. The good news is that our children are resilient. The best gifts you can give your children is your own well being and time to get to know them.

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Nineteen Surprising Ways Life Transitions For Older Adults Are Harder & Easier

Nineteen Surprising Ways Life Transitions For Older Adults Are Harder & Easier

Growing Older has its challenges and benefits. Check out these nineteen ways that make life transitions for older adults both easier and sometimes hard to face. May these suggestions help you to live your later years with greater ease.

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Your Inner Critic Is A Big Jerk - Until You Understand It

Your Inner Critic Is A Big Jerk - Until You Understand It

The Inner Critic wants to keep you safe. It is not your enemy. Unless you learn to notice how it is impacting your life, you will be limited to acting out your personality. The more you become aware of the inner critic the greater choices you will have because you know that you have a choice.. You are more than your personality!

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