Which Enneagram Type is Most Common and Why

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Which Enneagram Type is Most Common and Why

Which Enneagram type is most common is not clear. Most of the information available to us today is based on the anecdotal experience of Enneagram practitioners. I am not aware of any scientific studies. It would be hard to do a scientific study because there are too many variables that make up the complexity of personality.

Many Enneagram practitioners have noticed, based on anecdotal experience, the six, seven and nines are most common, at least in North America.

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Five Ways to connect with the spirit of Christmas without going to Church

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Five Ways to connect with the spirit of Christmas without going to Church

Christmas is a busy time of year full of activities.  People judge you if you don’t seem happy.

You, among many, find it hard to slow down at this time of year. There is so much to prepare, people to entertain and perfect gifts to buy.

You feel pressure to make everything seem right for you and your family.  You want to make sure that everyone who comes to your home has a perfect time.

If you are feeling overwhelmed, you are among many.  But there is hope.

Christmas is really about the spirit of spreading, love, peace and justice around the world. It is about slowing down enough to listen to the spirit speaking in you.

This holiday season is about showing gratitude for all the people in your life and for the many blessings you enjoy.

Even for churchgoers, it can be tempting to miss church with all the pressures of Christmas.

For the many who have lost connection with Christianity, this time of year can feel empty. The good news is that it does not have to be so.

You are a spiritual being whether or not you go to church, mosque, temple, synagogue or any other place of worship.  You have worth just for being you.  

It is good to slow down to feel your connection to spirit.  Here are five ways to connect with the spirit of Christmas without going to church.

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The Top 3 Reasons Using the Enneagram For Couples  Builds Stronger Relationships

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The Top 3 Reasons Using the Enneagram For Couples  Builds Stronger Relationships

You want the best relationship possible with the person you love. You want to be heard, respected, and loved unconditionally.  Being heard, respected and loved is all possible if you are both committed to making it happen.

Using the Enneagram for couples builds stronger relationships. First, it helps you to be more self-aware. It helps you to accept and love yourself.  It helps you to take 100% responsibility for your own behaviour. 

Taking responsibility for your own behaviour invites you to focus on what you are capable of changing. This being yourself!

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The 3 Most Important Things A Good Relationship Consists Of

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The 3 Most Important Things A Good Relationship Consists Of

Are you hungry for love?  Many of us will look for a person to complete us. The reality is that no one but our self can do this.  Why? Because you are one hundred percent responsible for your own happiness.

You are two whole people going into your relationship.  You're there for each other to create a nurturing environment – nudging you both towards health and wholeness.

What do you desire in a relationship? You likely want intimacy, trust, safety, playfulness, encouragement, love and compassion.   But are you both ready to take one hundred percent responsibility to make it happen?

Relationships should not be hard, but you will go through rough times. Are you both prepared to learn through the ups and downs of your relationship?  If you both can say yes to this, you are ready to begin the adventure.

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Why Is It Hard to Connect with God When Things Are Going Well? 

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Why Is It Hard to Connect with God When Things Are Going Well? 

You know life is going well for you!  Your dreams are coming true.  You love your job. You are in a great relationship.  Everything is going well.  Why with all this good happening in your life, does it feel like something is missing. Maybe it is your relationship with God.

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The Thirteen Most Important Things A Good Relationship Consists Of

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The Thirteen Most Important Things A Good Relationship Consists Of

Falling in love is easy. Unfortunately falling in love has a way of blinding us to reality. When you are desperate to be loved, you will be tempted to accept any person who comes along.

First, you need to watch out for signs for poor emotional, mental and physical health in your partner..  

A good relationship consists of many qualities. But for you to recognize these qualities you need to be open and healthy yourself.

A good relationship consists of:

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How Enneagram Types Impact What You Observe in Your Self (And Others)

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How Enneagram Types Impact What You Observe in Your Self (And Others)

Do people you love drive you crazy because they don't see your concerns?  Maybe your husband sees a messy house when it is not a big deal for you. Perhaps you are trying to help by washing the dishes, and your mother keeps complaining about how you do it.

You see and experience the world in your way.  Each of us sees different things depending on our personalities and our levels of awareness. It can help you to learn how enneagram types impact what you observe

Your Enneagram type will give you insight into what you are more likely to notice and what you are less likely to see.

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How Parenting Styles Can Affect Child Development

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How Parenting Styles Can Affect Child Development

Raising children is one of the most challenging responsibilities you can take on.  There are hundreds of books out there to help you parent. But in the end, you need to figure out what is best for you and your children.

How we parent can impact the lives of your children?  You need to raise your children with love, patience and appropriate boundaries. You are not perfect, and you will make mistakes.  If you stay healthy and do your best,your children are more likely to mature into responsible adults.

Learn five way to strengthen your parenting skills.

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Nine Positive Parenting Styles for Single Parents

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Nine Positive Parenting Styles for Single Parents

Parenting is one of the most important and challenging jobs in the world. Being a single parent is even more challenging. No child comes with instructions. Every child is different. You are still going to need friends and family to support you.

You have already learned some of the styles that work for you and your children. Each of the styles I am going to mention are general. You are going to need to find what works for you.

Here are nine positive parenting styles to help you be the best parent you can be.

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Can Parenting Styles Change Depending On The Situation?

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Can Parenting Styles Change Depending On The Situation?

No child is birthed into the world with instructions. No child is the same even when they come from the same parents. With continuing self care, self awareness and personal development you will be able to know what is best for your children. You will know when you need help. The good news is that our children are resilient. The best gifts you can give your children is your own well being and time to get to know them.

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