It takes courage to ask for help and be willing to explore what is going on within your mind, body and heart.
Good for you if you have chosen to work with a therapist.
Finding the right therapist is like finding the right partner. You need to find a person that you trust.
Read MoreThe Enneagram symbol reflects how your energy is constantly shifting and changing. Even in a minute, your sensations, emotions and thoughts can change in dramatic ways. Your enneagram stress and growth pattern can help you to find your flow.
Read MoreGoing through a divorce is tough, even when done compassionately.
All your emotions are close to the surface, and you are angry at life. You expected to be in this relationship until death.
You are grieving what could have been. You are losing your partner with who you could share your day. It feels so lonely now.
It now feels awkward to go out with couples who you used to hang out with together. Over time you will discover who you are, your real friends.
You are responsible for everything in your household. It is easy to feel overwhelmed.
Childcare is now a lot more complicated. You suddenly find yourself as a single parent; you are exhausted. You are embarrassed to ask for help.
You are feeling angry at your spouse and probably mad at yourself. You ask yourself, why did I put up with the behaviour of this person for so long? What did I do wrong? Why didn't I see this coming months ago?
If there were an affair by one of you, feelings of betrayal would magnify your emotions even more. You will feel angry, enraged, hurt, sad and disappointed. You will have many reasons to be angry at life.
Moving through a divorce into new life takes time. The only way to move through this tumultuous time is to experience your sadness, hurt, anger and disappointments. Hiding from your pain is only going to make it worse in the long run.
Read MoreYou have an inner critic! It will never go away.
You have a choice to stay in the control of your ego or risk following your inner instincts.
Your inner critic wants to be your friend. Your ego likes the status quo. Your inner critic wants you to keep to the familiar so it can stay in charge.
The secret is to begin to befriend your inner critic. Let it know how much you appreciate its desire to keep you safe. Reassure it that you are now an adult and can take good care of yourself. Over time your inner critic will quiet down.
The Enneagram is an excellent psychological-spiritual map that can show you how your inner critic tries to control you. Each personality type has a different message and relationship with the inner critic.
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