The rarest Enneagram type is type four the Individualist. Part of the reason you don’t meet a lot of Types four’s is that they tend to keep to themselves. They often are introverts. You are more likely to encounter a type four in a small group or one on one situation.
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If you identify with the type four personality, you like to connect with others at a deep heart level. You tend to live through your emotions. You often feel misunderstood. You don’t feel like anyone understands you.
You want to fit it with others. But you don’t want to fit in if you are expected to be like everyone else. You want to find your unique niche in life.
Finding your true vocation can be a difficult goal to achieve. It is hard because you are very hard on yourself. You always think there is something better to come even if it is staring you in your face.
You go to great lengths to show the world how different you are. Maybe you like to wear leather. Perhaps you like to colour your hair. You dress in very funky clothes that get you lots of attention. You always stand out from the rest of us.
You have a flair for design, colour and beauty. Your home will stand out from others in how you decorate your house or apartment. You have a gift for knowing what looks good in a room. You always have your eye out for art that will make your home unique.
Every day you go through many emotions. Emotions are neither good or bad.
If you are a four, you often have your favourite emotions. They are usually powerful feelings of sadness, aloneness and misunderstanding. When you are stressed it is easy for you to feel despair.
These emotional energies become your way to deal with your stress. Unfortunately, it only makes things worse for you and the people who love you.
It is as though you get stuck in one emotion. You will not get out of your irritableness and depression until you get back into living in the moment.
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If you are a four the best way to get out of your depression is to find a practice to help you become grounded. Taking a few moments several times a day to intentionally breathe can help you find your equilibrium.
There are many ways to become grounded or another way of saying it, present. I encourage you to find some practice that will help you to be open to the wisdom of your body, mind and heart.
You find connecting with the wisdom of your body the most difficult. It is essential for you to pay attention to your body by paying attention to the sensations of your organs and muscles.
A great way to become more aware of the sensations of your body is through taking part in a body scan meditation. You can find excellent body scans on the app called Insight Timer available on Google Play and The App Store.
You can do it on your own. Here is how you do it? I would encourage you to lie down. Start focussing your attention on your feet. As you move your awareness up your body, spend at least 30 seconds on each part of your body, e.g. feet, lower legs, knees and so on. You may find this hard. It takes time and practice to become aware of your body. It is worth the effort.
Others you meet may find you intimidating because of the intensity of your emotions. Some people will not be prepared to communicate with you at the deep level that you would like. Give them time, and they will be touched by your desire to connect heart to heart.
You are a beautiful person. You are unique. You are special! Trust that you have something important to contribute to the world. Remember we all have the four in us.
Sometimes your answers to your big questions are a lot closer than you think. I encourage you to pay more attention to what is, rather than dreaming of what could be.
When you feel like you are getting stuck in an emotion find a way to ground yourself. Remember that feelings are in constant flux. They change from moment to moment. When you ground yourself, you will know what you are feeling in each moment.
Learn to enjoy the moment. Fully experience all of what life is offering you a moment to moment with all the ups and downs.
When you feel down, know that it will pass. The wisdom of your body, mind and heart will show you the way.
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